Many of the jw's I grew up with had "Family Day", a kind of pseudo-Christmas, where each family member would draw another's name and buy a gift for that person. They'd then have a special day where they'd exchange gifts and have a meal together.
My family started doing this when I was in my mid 20's. We did it for a few years and then I got mad one year and basically said, "Either we're celebrating Christmas or we're not. No more of this having it both ways crap." That put an end to that. I just didn't feel right saying that Christmas was unchristian but doing the same thing on another day of the year was acceptable. It just seemed so hypocritical.
That reminds me of something else. My mother got upset with me one year for not remembering her birthday. Bear in mind that she's the one who converted to jw when I was 5 and subsequently forced birthdays out of our life. My Dad called me up and told me my mom was in tears because I'd forgotten to call and wish her a "Happy Unbirthday". I was steamed. Again, you can't have it both ways. Hypocrites! (My apologies, I'm feeling a bit angry today.)
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Anyone else have "Family Day"?
by tall penguin inmany of the jw's i grew up with had "family day", a kind of pseudo-christmas, where each family member would draw another's name and buy a gift for that person.
they'd then have a special day where they'd exchange gifts and have a meal together.
my family started doing this when i was in my mid 20's.
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Thanks for brakes on letter to my brother
by Brigid indear friends and sojourners,.
a few of you guys read and advised me on my proposed letter to my brother i posted a while back.. to fill you in: i wanted to send a letter to my brother who has returned gung ho to the organization to let him know exactly where i stood on the society et all.
i felt that this letter would give me the freedom to post pics online, speak my mind freely and root out the last vestige of hold the organization had on me.
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That's great news Brigid. All the best to you and your brother.
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Who has or has not been invited to the memorial?
by misspeaches inwell the memorial is tmrw night and time is running out to give out invitations.
(au time that is...) .
last night my mother asked me if i've heard from any of my old jw friends.
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I haven't been invited to the memorial. Of course, I disassociated last August. And to think I was there last year with bells on. I even brought someone! My how things can change in a year.
Interesting sidenote, my brother, who was never baptized, would go to the memorial every year to keep my mom happy. He's not going this year. My mom didn't even invite him. Me thinks it has something to do with the copy of "Apocalypse Delayed" he's been reading, not to mention his deepening relationship with me, the "aposta-child". He now sees through the wts and is no longer interested in pleasing our mom. I'm sure she's grieving big time this year, with neither of her kids attending memorial with her. I can see her sitting there tomorrow night choking back tears as the emblems are passed, lamenting over the damnable fate of her only children. Boo hoo.
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Can a disassociated person attend the memorial?
by chok ini disassociated myself last year, because i refused to attend a jc!
i preferred to jump ship rather than be pushed!.
this year my parents have invited me to the memorial?
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I disassociated last August. Neither of my jw parents (nor anyone else) have invited me to the memorial. I'm happy about that.
Anyone can attend the memorial, whether they've disassociated or not. The only way they'll take issue is if you cause some disturbance. Then the dub goons will escort you to the door.
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When Will I Not Be Considered Disfellowshipped Among the Congregation?
by kwheeler inhere is a little background about myself.
my mother raised me and my siblings in the jw faith.
however, my father was not a witness and opposed a lot of the beliefs so you can imagine how our life was.
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It took me a year and a half of meeting attendance to be reinstated. I wish I'd know then what I know now about the org. I wouldn't have bothered.
Educate yourself about the organization. Look at the "best of" section here. The more you see that the wts doesn't have "the truth" the less you'll care what the jw's think of you. You'll realize that you're better off without them in your life. And the healing will begin.
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What was the last straw?
by poodlehead ini am new to this sight and thought i would get to know some of you.
so what was the last straw that made you leave?
now that i started this i should give mine.
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I read the elder's manual. The legalism struck me as completely unchristian. As well the power it gave elders to pry into the personal intimacies of congregation members was disgusting. I had experienced a horrific and invasive 6 hour judicial committee 5 years prior and was told by some "kind" elders in another congregation that these men on my jc hadn't handled things properly. And yet, I could see from the elder's manual (not to mention the handwritten notes in the margin) that the elders interrogating me were doing exactly what they'd been empowered to do by the society.
I'd been abused and lied to. And there was no longer any hiding from it. It was clear to me that it was time to leave. After that, the 607 stuff, the flip-flops and all the other lies just added to my conviction that this was not the "truth".
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Crisis of Conscience
by Kristofer ini just finished reading this book.
i've got to say, that last chapter was amazing and so inspiring.
i haven't felt that good after reading a book in a long time.
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I gave this book to a current jw and after reading it, he's still a jw. His reasoning was similar to dozy's. He also believes that regardless of what the jw's do, they're still fulfilling the "last days prophecy" regarding the preaching work and nothing can change his mind about that. I'd love him to read "Sign of the Last Days--When?" but I really can't be bothered even bringing it up to him. He gets outright agitated, unreasonable and insulting, and I just don't have time for that.
In the end, people will only see what they're ready to see.
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Why Won't God Heal Amputees?
by Quotes in(apologies if this is old news).
i ran accross this web site/online book today: why won't god heal amputees?
http://whydoesgodhateamputees.com/.
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I read the article. Interesting reasoning. Yes, "miracle healing" seems to be quite selective. At least the jw's didn't believe in it. Yet the belief in "Jehovah's will" as the explanation for all things good was about the same in the end.
Thanks Quotes for sharing.
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WT celebrates the birthday of the World Health Organization and NGOs
by Dogpatch incelebrating a birthday with who!
jehovah's witnesses participated in celebrating the birthday of world health day 2000, with representatives of the world health organization, ngos, and other high ranking government officials.
what is world health day?
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So, am I understanding the 2005 pdf correctly? The wts is STILL an NGO?! Can this be confirmed?
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Elders want to talk
by drew sagan inwell, the other day at the meeting and elder approached me and aksed how i was doing.
what he was doing was working his way into me to schedule a sheparding call.
i've done my best to be ignored up untill this point (never have gotten a sheparding call, ever!
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Before I disassociated last year, the PO of my congregation kept trying to set up a meeting with me through email. I told him I'd let him know when I was available. He kept sending me emails and persisting. I told him I felt I was being harassed and that I will be the one to let him know when I'm ready to chat. He backed off after that. My next and last correspondence with him was my disassociation letter.
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